In Control

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  1. BlessedLittleHomestead

    I miss it too. I just don’t have it in me to blog as much.

  2. Ashleigh

    I’ve been a long time follower, since.before the awful events your family had to go through, and I just wanted to say how much I miss your blog posts about your family and life. Your blog was truly inspiring. I too March to a different beat and me and my family are with you.

  3. Amber

    I suppose I’m the same? I don’t mind authority, though I do challenge them when they are wrong. And I honestly have “no” friends. I can’t really seem to get along with anyone for very long, not because I don’t like them but because they always want to shove their opinions on what I’m not doing “wrong” down my throat, which causes me to fly off. I figure it’s my life, my way, and although people are entitled to their opinion, they are also entitled to NOT shove it down my throat. Ugh!!! Thanks for posting this.

  4. BlessedLittleHomestead

    No, there are many times I have wonderful disagreements. And I don’t think anyone who has a different opinion is wrong. I’ve never made that claim. At least not in seriousness. I do post humor ” you can agree with me or you can be wrong” type memes. Lots of people do. It’s satire. Not everyone understands it

  5. Meagan

    I am an INTJ. I can relate to this as I too,have similar “control issues” and buck against those that are thought to be “authority figures”. I question everything and everyone, at all times. I do a lot of research.
    From your last bit, it gets easier to gain everything back after losing control. It might take some time, but it comes back with a vengeance, and it feels so wonderful. Everyone in your way, will be “moved” one way or the other.

  6. ALong

    I am so this as well. Everything you wrote and all that you experienced. I am this 100% and you will get you back just as I am finding my balance again. Just let time work and take large breaths when you realize the angst can be left in the past.

  7. Annie

    Sadly, nothing you say or do will change the mind of those who have made up their mind against you. I’ve seen from the beginning your story. While I believe you make things harder on yourself and your family by not being able to let go and move forward I also understand it because I too am INFJ. We are the minority of personality types but have many wonderful qualities. You need to embrace and focus on those. It’s hard for us not to try to go back and fix what went wrong from our perspective. We can’t succeed in doing that and we can’t force others to see things our way, even when we know we’re right. We carry a weight of wanting justice because we are as hard on expecting the best from others as we demand of ourselves. Sadly, things aren’t always fair and we have to learn to allow others to be wrong. It will drive us crazy when they can’t see what is crystal clear, but not everyone has the intuition of an INFJ. It’s our gift and we must learn to use it and trust it, but acknowledge that only a minority of us can understand it. We can’t control any external wrongs and internally we rebel because of that, but you will not find peace until you accept that you can only control your own reaction and behavior. I have learned to walk away from toxic people and focus on those that matter. My life has become easier, calmer and more meaningful. Remember, INFJ’s carry a lot of expectation from themselves and others, if left unchecked we can easily become unbalanced by that. Find your center, focus on your own expectations and allow no one to stop you from reaching your goals. Use that stubbornness to exceed even your own expectations. You have true friends who are backing you, hear their voices above the negative. Focus on the positive traits of the INFJ and work on the weaknesses. Every personality type has negative qualities that can overshadow all the good if left unchecked or left to fester. It’s time for you to embrace who you are but also acknowledge what you’ve allowed to detract you. INFJ’s are very strong and independent personalities, but we need to be tempered by those in our lives that can help us see the reality of the outer world because we tend to focus on inner self.

  8. Denise

    Just an observance of mine – anytime someone questions or hints to challenge you, you tell them they are wrong. While I agree that there were questionable actions by authorities, not everyone whose opinion differs from yours is wrong, Nicole.

  9. BlessedLittleHomestead

    Lola your story is wrong. Joe didn’t menace anyone. He wasn’t convicted, he took a plea. As I’ve stated before the courts used our custody case to gain compliance. My children who were in the car never get to express their side of the story and the two women who were there did. Had my children been able to testify and it gone to trial, things would have ended differently.

    I did request an attorney, a mere 8 hours passed from the time I first spoke to CPS to when my kids were taken around 8pm. In Kentucky an anonymous phone call is not probable cause and invoking your 4th amendment right isn’t a reason to seize children. If my children were in danger, they would have taken all 10 of them. But they didn’t. It was a power trip by a sheriff with complex.

    My families rights were violated. I was physically assaulted. My family was emotionally abused. And what did all of this expose? CPS found the children weren’t registered for school. Not a shining moment for the state of Kentucky.

  10. Lola

    What I don’t understand is why did your husband, Joe, menace that lady when he went to get water at her house? Joe is convicted of menacing, right? Clarify if I’m wrong, but the lady Joe got convicted of menacing is the one that called the child protective services on you? She was acting on vengeance. Then, the police contacted you to speak to you all. But you said you wanted a lawyer present. Is this story accurate? Then you all stalled and didn’t get a lawyer when the police told you they would give you time to get a lawyer? When Joe and you didn’t get back to law enforcement with a lawyer present they came to your house to talk to you? That’s when your recording took place.

  11. Mickie in TX

    I hate that you and your family are going through all the hardship the evil people and corrupt law officials in your area. Sounds like the DOJ needs to investigate in your county. Good luck and God Bless.

  12. April Jo Perez

    That description is you, to a “T”… I am sorry for all that you have gone through and know that you will come through with your head held high.

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