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  1. Anthony Paul - CPS Worker

    So auditing the system wouldn’t take up valuable resources and money that could go towards a more severe case?

    After dealing with over a thousand child protection cases in my line of work, I can say that most parents are resistant to getting their children removed, but the thousand+ cases I’ve seen, every single one of them needed to have their children removed for at least a period of time. I also know that there’s no “rushed court system” CPS has to first obtain a 3 month order, then a minimum of 3 6 month orders before obtaining a permanent order. Unless the parents sign off, which usually means they don’t desire a relationship with their children in the first place.

  2. Susan

    So glad you posted this. We have been considering becoming foster parents. It’s a huge leap of faith but knowing there could be at least 1 child that we could love on and nurture would make it worth it.

  3. Jo-ann

    BTW, I like short hair. So much easier to take care of!! Hats off to Olivia.

  4. Sarah

    As an adoptive parent…..I agree with almost everything you stated. The short time we were involved with the state system, I saw many things needing changed. I feel our local agency does the very best with what they have to work with, but the lack of resources and time is so constrictive. Praying for more good people to foster and mentor, more assistance for struggling family and more thinking of what’s truly best for the children. My heart also goes out to the good people working at the agencies who’s hands get tied by beuracracy. I hope no family ever has to experience the heartache that yours went through.

  5. Nemo

    Years ago I cared for twin baby girls. Their aunt and uncle were fostering them as they were born to a sister who had a crack addiction. I began watching them at one week old. I kept them extra hours twice a week so the foster parents could grocery shop and go out to dinner. They had 3 biological children, one five months older than the girls.

    The foster parents worked full time. After caring for them for eight months from 7-5 and 7-8 twice a week, the foster parents realized it was too difficult for them to keep them. My husband and I said we’d be willing to foster them and even adopt if parental rights were severed. The aunt and uncle were thrilled as they knew we would always make sure the girls had contact with the biological family.

    CPS denied us even though the girls spent more time with us than anyone else. We had all the furniture and supplies they needed since I was already caring for them. The aunt and uncle begged them to let us keep them. The system said, we could not because the girls were African american and we’re Caucasian. That was 25 years ago.

    Those girls went from foster home to foster home never being reunited with mom and never being adopted out. As crack babies they had a few issues and the uprooting of them over and over made it worse. They never were kept in regular contact with biological family.

    We truly loved them and wanted them to be safe and secure, but at least they didn’t have to be raised in a Caucasian home! They don’t even remember us now, but I’ll never forget them. Just another CPS fail.

  6. mommylove7

    Watch the video starting at the 17 minute mark. NYPD Detective exposing the pedophile ring of foster care:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VvGw_uYd70

    Clintons are involved with pedophilia according to high level intelligence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12zVlaZyX3Q

    Audits aren’t going to stop this. KY OIG from 2007 exposed them. NOTHING was done to stop it. That IG is now a representative in the KY Legislature….Robert Benvenuti III. Nothing changes. This is involves BILLIONS of dollars a year.

    The dam is starting to break. Parents need to keep speaking the truth. Thank you for speaking up Nicole.

  7. ari

    wait why were your boys taken from you and put into foster care?

  8. Meagan

    Good post!

  9. Publicommentsprivatelife

    While I agree there are flaws in the system it is there for a reason. Some people who know that they are horrible parents refuse to acknowledge it and will defend their “right” to raise their kids in conditions animals shouldn’t live in. Family court proceedings are kept confidential to shelter the children. I’ve seen first hand absolute horrors that children are subjected to all while their parents claim innocence or misunderstandings. And the general public will never know the truth, only what the parents portray as facts. I’ve seen parents fight to keep their kids while refusing to provide even the basic needs and have no plan or want to improve. I’ve worked in the judicial system from the inside and have read all of the facts in cases and have seen parents vocalize the exact opposite of the truth.
    People refuse to admit that they screwed up and when we’re talking about defenseless minor children there’s not a lot of room for error. Birthing children by no means makes anyone a parent, it’s the aftercare that matters.

  10. April

    So true. There seems to be so much waste of resources. Love seeing all of the photos that you post, as always.

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